Loving Wife Seeks Caregiver Help For Double Amputee Disabled Husband

by Linda
(Woodbury, NJ, USA)

My husband is 50 and is a double amputee. I am his caregiver and things are getting difficult now that he doesn't have any legs.

Up until November of 2009 he had one leg, which made things a little easier helping him get from point A to point B.

Now he has no legs and it is very difficult for me to move him without help, which is not always available to me.

We live in an apartment that is not handicap accessible and we have steps both front and back. I purchased a ramp, which my son uses to get him in and out, but he is not always available to do this.

When I am home from work with him we can't even go out for a lunch because I can't get him out by myself.

Doctors' appointments a lot of the times are rescheduled because I can't get him out at that time.

It would be nice if I could get some type of lift to help me, or an agency that would pick him up and get him out for me.

I have tried all types of places and no one seems to want to help. Sometimes it would be nice just to take him outside for some fresh air but I can't do this on my own.

We also struggle at times financially. I work and he collects a Social Security check, but sometimes this is not enough and I have to let some bills go until the following month so I can get medications or pay for co-pays and the doctors.

He requires a lot of help and sometimes these things to help him are not covered under my insurance, so he does without.

My husband is a very good man. He has always worked to support us. Now he can't and watching me struggle breaks his heart.

I truly do not mind taking care of my husband. I love him and he is my world. My life has been put on hold until he can walk again.

I hate to see my boys putting their lives on hold to make sure things are easier for me. I appreciate everything they do for me and I would be lost without them, but they are young and deserve to live a little.